Feel Your Successes Are Never Enough? Guess What Can Help?

Do You Feel Your Successes As A Nurse Leader Are Never Enough?  It's easy to slip into this place.  Although your successes feel good, it feels like they are never enough. Your workdays are dominated by high-impact demands: Patients backing up in the emergency department waiting room Staffing that requires "Robbing Peter to pay Paul" Reviewing endless adverse events In addition, Societal Trends Trap Us This statement by Friedemann Schaub sums up our current day leaders...
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A List of Healthy Work Boundaries for 2019

It's the New Year, a time for tidying up. The new year always triggers me to assess, reorganize and purge.  That's what I have been doing with my office this week. I'm a big advocate of Marie Kondo's  the life-changing magic of tidying up.   The book is great and she has a new Netflix movie. Looking at how I set and maintain professional and personal boundaries is part of my tidying up process. As nurse leaders, we are notorious for not keeping healthy boundaries around us. Here a...
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What Surprised You This Year?

What has surprised you this year? This question takes us beneath the surface of our daily lives. It's a question posed by Mark Nepo, author, poet, and philosopher. Here is a response to this question Nepo describes in his book,  Seven Thousand Ways to Listen. Two Breaths that changed his life - his daughter's first and his mother's last When asked what surprised Marco during this last year, his voice began to quiver. He’d witnessed two breaths that had changed his life. As his...
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The Holidays Are For The Innocent

I Love Love Love this image. The pure innocence on this child's face takes my breath away.  And the whole Santa Clause thing makes it even more sweet. What is it about the Holidays and Innocence? Children's faces - Is it the child's innocence that captivates us when looking into their faces?   Look at these faces.  Pure innocence.  Pure Contentment.   "Children intuit wisdom, they just can't express it." EB White Imagine Others as They Were as Children ...
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What I Learned From Lady Mary

In an episode of Downton Abbey years ago, Lady Mary and her father were arguing.  He said to her,  "I suppose you are against me too". And Lady Mary said, "I'm never against you, father, but I am for the what's best for us." When I heard this statement, I knew it had a message and wisdom that I needed to understand.  Since then, I have pondered the statement. Recently, I discovered the wisdom behind that statement. Action Steps to Self-Acceptance Rick Hanson is a psych...
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I Love Funerals

I Love Funerals.  So yes, I got caught up in the pomp and circumstance and the eulogies at President 41 Bush's funeral in Washington DC this week. At death, everything comes down a few notches. We can be more real in the moment. I always feel like I can sigh fully and comfortably when sitting in a pew in a church, temple, synagogue at funerals. Ahhhh..... Eulogies A lot is said in the eulogies. Jon Meacham (historian) said yesterday in his Bush eulogy: "He was a Loving Man wi...
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You Have To Get Out of Your Mind

Good Morning. Here are 2 thoughts as we share a cup of coffee. We Have To Get Out of Our Minds To Be Present Being Present Is an Energy Transmission - (Did you know that?  I hadn't fully realized this .... Hmmm.) The Science Behind Energy Transmission Being Present is centered in the heart.  The heart sparks more energy transmission than the brain.  Our hearts are much more than a mechanical pump. The heart communicates with the brain and body in four ways.  It has a ne...
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A Story of the “State of Grace”

Are you in a State of Grace? That was the question.  David and I grew up Catholic, and have been recovering Catholics ever since. When our girls were little we started going to church again because growing up with a sense of community was a good thing for them to experience.  We lived in the Black Forest in Colorado at the time. One Sunday we explored a Catholic church called the Servants of the Holy Family that is tucked away in the ponderosa pine forest. As it turned out, it is on...
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Gratitude Grows New Eyes To See

It's been quite a year, storms of every kind. I wish you .... time to snuggle under warm blankets, moments of peace of mind, and the work that brings you meaning and fulfillment.  If You Are A Bit Of A Curmudgeon or Know One,  you must read this article by AJ Jacobs.  It's a feel good experience.  It also has links to great gratitude TED talks. Why You Should Always Thank Your Barista But Wait, before you click... Here Is A Great Work Suggestion -  "Gratitude Grows New Eyes To See" ...
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Can You Get Satisfaction in a Nurse Leader Job?

Nurse Leader Burnout is a Moving Train Heading For a Cliff ....  In the 2010 IOM Future of Nursing Report, they sent out a call for more and higher level nurse leaders in healthcare. It is estimated that we need 67,000 additional nurse managers by 2020 (Bureau of Labor).  Oh dear ....  This poses quite a challenge given nurse manager turnover is between 50 - 72 %.  Yikes! This is not a pretty picture.... There are currently 400,000 nurse leaders in the US. And more than 50% le...
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